In The Face of Humanity: The Tragedy of Orlando
By Roland M. Comtois
Within every house and in every heart across our country, we were stunned by the senseless harm and anger aimed at innocent men and women at the hands of a murderer. Around the nation, wait, around the world, men, women, old, young, tall, short, strong, tired, white, black, straight and gay have all the felt impact of this tragedy. So much so that it caused all to freeze in place.
It amazes me, but it shouldn’t. This event, and all events like this one, thousands of miles away from where I sit, impacts me to the core of my humanity. I, like many of you, want to run scared, scream as loud as I can, but these actions feed nothing other than fear and more anger. I can’t be part of that, not now…not ever.
What can we say to someone about these events that have increasingly and catastrophically impacted the world’s well-being?
The well-being of humanity is not based on the chaos that sits behind a mask in the shadows. My well-being, our well-being is defined by what I/you can see, touch, feel and experience in my/your life. My well-being, our well-being is based on the choices we make for the lives we want to lead.
It is based on our ability to stretch our compassionate self directly to the heart and soul of another. It is our joy to celebrate the vast differences that exist between each of us. But even greater than that, we must hold reverence for those differences that makes us individual.
My happiness, our happiness is derived from a set of codes and inner guideposts that influence our lives. Through kindness and compassion, not harm and destruction, we reach beyond our own boundaries. Kindness doesn’t just exist; you must create it.
What can I say to someone who asks ‘what now’?
I would say look at the faces of humanity; look at the men and women who lost their lives at the hand of another. I would say look in their eyes, their smiles, feel their joy and discover their humanity. I would say stop what you’re doing and look at your life. I would examine your boundaries, your limitations, and then celebrate who you are. And, then, I would stretch myself beyond my judgements and beyond my grief, and become a thread in the tapestry of humanity.
I would say pray for those left behind and those that left too soon. By holding the energy of prayer within yourself, you become a vibrant body of energy that exudes goodness and kindness. Becoming one with the energy itself allows you to invisibly touch those far beyond your physical reach.
What I do know most of all, as we move through this horrific tragedy, is that we must remember love. We must remember, reawaken and recognize what love is. Even on this very dark day and amidst the pain, we must come to understand that the love is, and will always be, the strongest entity that endures in the realm of existence.
Love knows no gender, color, race, sexual orientation, or religion. Love just loves. Simply put, it needs nothing, but your willingness to be love itself. Be boundless with your love. Shed your limitations. Do not keep them on the step where your feet are placed. When it is all said and done, we will be defined by our humanity and love, not our anger.
Take time as you navigate this tragic loss. Find moments in your day to remember love; to become love itself. Be open to greeting someone with kindness whose hair is a little brighter than yours, whose movement is a little more jubilant than yours, whose spirit is a little different than yours. Just celebrate the differences that exist and by doing so you’ll see the human being inside.