The Death of a Child
This blog is a result of a question that was presented to me years ago.
What would you say to a mother whose child has died?
I would first say that my heart aches for your profound loss. For no words can subdue or halt your sadness and grief. I would ask you to surround yourself with loving kindness, as I do for you right now.
I would say that when a child passes, God’s grace, the universal love, fills the child with divinity and holy light. The child’s soul and essence is being carried home.
I would say that home, heavenly home, is a place that is not distant, nor distracted, but is alive with unconditional and unbridled love. It is a place that is familiar to a soul crossing the barrier from this life to life in the hereafter.
I would say a loving guide will be summoned to the place of your child’s passing. Your child will be carried within the arms of an angel and will feel loved in just the same way as your child felt on earth, with you, because love never dies. All that was hurting or frightening no longer exists. All that was challenging is challenged no more. Your child will have a direct link to your heart at the moment of crossing the threshold between here and there. You will never be apart. Once the child is there, a knowing will fill the child’s heart and the continuity of love, a love that has been shared beyond conception will begin its eternal journey.
I would say memories that you shared together are etched deeply within the soul. Love becomes as it always was, everything. Memories are painful as you navigate through your loss, but with tenderness and care, your memories will become your refuge.
I would say that God has a plan for each and every one of us, from our infancy, from the thoughtful wonderment of possibilities, to a world beyond time. Each of us possesses a divine connection to the universal light that is in all time and space. In the connection lies the truth that love is everlasting that we are part of each other and none are meant to be separate from the beauty of that love.
I would say that often God’s plan is unknown. Nor does it make sense as we try to understand the enormity of such personal loss. I believe that everything is part of God’s greater plan, even the most difficult experiences of our life. Questions and emotions from despair to anger and fear will emerge, but love in all its wisdom will bring us signs and messages of hope. Death cannot and will not ever erase the love that you shared. Nothing can take that away.
Most importantly, I would say do not judge what you feel. Grieve as you must. Grief will affect your body, your mind and your soul. Allow the grief to come. Cry and cry and cry again. Let others help you through your sadness. Let your voice be heard. Let the memory of joy and happiness find its way back to you without guilt or hesitation.
I would say that every whisper that is channeled from the heart, every thought that is filled with love and every memory shared together will last forever. I would say that the essence of your child’s spirit will always be a part of you, because love does not die.
I would say that every prayer is answered. I believe that every prayer, stated with loving intention, is sent directly into the “white light” of God’s heart and is heard. I know that we all would like our prayers answered instantly, but God truly works in mysterious ways.
I would say with great clarity, that your child is free … free to be part of you, free to be part of your every breath, free to touch your heart and caress your soul.
With Loving Kindness,